Why Do I Attract the Same Type of Person Over and Over?

At first, it feels different. There is something about this person that seems new or promising. But over time, the same dynamics start to show up again.

You may notice similar frustrations or a familiar sense of imbalance.

This often connects to deeper patterns that feel familiar, even if you are not aware of them.

These patterns can also make it harder to leave relationships that are not working, which I explore in Why Is It So Hard to Leave a Relationship I Know Isn’t Right?

Recognizing the pattern is important. The real shift happens when you begin to see how you participate in it in real time.

If you keep finding yourself in similar relationship dynamics, it is usually not random. Looking more closely at how these patterns form and unfold in real time can begin to create a different experience moving forward.